A commonly asked questions that we hear from friends who don’t have a child with a disability is, “Should we offer to help someone when their disabled child has a need, or will offering help offend the parents?” We generally know how we would answer that question, but this is an individual decision.

We disagree in two ways. First, and of less importance, we disagree with the statement because it seems to imply that for us, raising Mary has been relatively easy. And if you are a parent raising a child with a disability, “easy” is not one of the words that come to mind.